Bite the Fruit — Relationship Health

However, who’s practicing it? Everyone is talking about polyamory. Is it really popular? Or are people only saying it is? Perhaps a self-fulfilling prophecy might be at work: Polyamory becomes more widespread because we think it’s already widespread. Norms around sexuality change because we think they’ve changed — even if they haven’t. Nontraditional sexual relationships, of course, are as old as time itself. In the 1960s and ’70s, a generation of Americans became acquainted with “free love” only to settle into monogamous relationships when they got older. “Polyamory” entered the lexicon with 1997’s “The Ethical Slut,” a book now considered...

Tips to ensure a successful marriageWhile fairy tales and rom-coms often end with the couple living “happily ever after,” real life can be far from that once the proverbial honeymoon period is over. But there is hope for couples who are aiming to infuse a little more happiness into their relationship. The notion of a perfect, problem-free, and everlasting happiness in marriage is unrealistic. Every relationship faces challenges, conflicts, and ups and downs. The expectation of a perpetual state of bliss can lead to disappointment and frustration. A fulfilling marriage requires managing expectations, ongoing adaptation, and a lot of effort....

Tracking progress is a funny thing. We strive to improve in all areas of our life but it can be difficult to gauge. How do we know if we are moving in the right direction? When it comes to relationships, we are fed with fear-inducing messaging about what makes them fail rather than what makes them succeed. It’s crucial for couples to grow together, to become more comfortable, to build trust, to gain confidence. These would require us to know the signs of growth in a relationship. Measuring growth is an important practice in any healthy and fulfilling relationship. Even...

The societal norm is to have one romantic partner, whereas it's entirely "normal" for us to have many friends. We don't ever ask, "won't your other friends be jealous if you see that friend tonight?" Romantic relationships are relationships, just like friendships are relationships. If you love your friend and your other friend, you know what it's like to love two people and what it's like to be in multiple relationships with varying levels of intimacy — with or without sex.   Monogamy culture is all around us. It assumes that everyone strives to be married to or partnered with...

Flirting is actually good for you. Flirting can be defined as engaging someone for amorous intent or just playfully for amusement. You might flirt when you are with a group of friends in a bar or restaurant, and you notice someone attractive across the room. It’s a behavior and form of communication, often involving body language, in which someone is showing interest in someone else. You can also flirt via text messages using jokes, emojis or memes. Health benefits of flirting Boosts self-esteem and confidence Periods of high or prolonged stress negatively affect our self-esteem. Flirting may be one way...