Blog — bdsm

Sex, safe word and active consent In the ever-evolving landscape of BDSM, fetish and kink, there is the inviolate business of consent. The parameters of sex play and adult play may be subject to change and experimentation, but the basic agreement among the players on when to continue, pause, review and halt should be a constant. Without such unwavering consent, neither trust nor respect can be established. And without these components, attempts to engage in sex or fetish games would fizzle, seem aimless or cross over into physical abuse. Mutual or unanimous agreement helps to eliminate the potential of miscommunication,...

  Don't Force Anything   Using or wearing a cocktoy or cockring should be pleasurable. Select an item that is comfortable. It can be snug but not too tight as to cut off blood flow. Do not force a cockring that is too small or wear a cocktoy that is too heavy.     Be Careful of Sudden Moves The penis or scrotum can be injured by sudden blows. In the case of the erect penis, sudden changes in position, sudden jerks to the side or bending of the penis can rupture veins, cause swelling and pain. To alleviate pain,...

Classically, BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism (Sadism and Masochism). Without replacing the original categories, Domination and Submission were added later. BDSM means different things to different people. Depending on preferences, most people participate in one or two interests, rather than all of the categories.   BDSM is different from most expectations. Between stereotypes, porn, and Hollywood movies, there's a lot of misconceptions about BDSM. Short of attending a workshop or visiting a dominatrix, the best way to learn more about it is to do some research. Just like with regular sex, if you want to be good at it,...